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Onwards to the next Stage!

 I've been accepted onto stage two! Exciting and a prompt to double down further on my research and preparations!

I've been working hard to prepare the environment. I'm not fitting the cupboard child locks yet (even though the H&S checklist did seem to be asking me to!) I can't get everything prepared for their room(s). I don't know whether I'll be approved for one or the two I've asked for and i don't know what age(s) they'll be. I have plans and scenarios for the house depending on what is right for them. ..That said, the room needed to have curtains, lampshade and bits anyway ...and if things pop up on Facebook Marketplace or Freegle that look appropriate and more affordable then I'm picking up relevant bits along the way. Thanks to a lovely donation from a friend my kitchen has a mini kitchen alongside it, which four children have already put to the test and approved in it's first two weeks of situ. :) Again, it might not be right for them, but it's much better to be able to offer the option - and knowing it's getting good use in the meantime is definitely a bonus!

What have i been up to?

Continuing to listen to the new episodes of podcasts/vlogs from previously

Watching/listening to instagram  - i am particularly enjoying foster.parenting - i am not looking to foster, but the tips on responses, therapeutic parenting and just generally what children are going through in fostering is really informative for me.

I've been able to join a couple of AdoptionUK networking events - there's one later this week for prospective single adopters, which will be good to link up with others in a similar place.

My social worker came around on Monday for the first stage two visit - this week we discussed:

- Big decision points in life.

- what i do when i'm stressed.

- my decision/organisation/planning processes

Reading - articles, books (currently 'Raising Turnip', which i'll need to report back on)

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