First day of transitions

What an amazing experience..

Could not have asked for better!!

First meeting and she came through the doors, saw me and ran over shouting 'Mummyyyyy!!!!' before giving me a giant hug!

I think the intro book (& amazing foster carer work) did their job!!! 😯

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Matching panel date confirmed

On 2nd April I posted saying my social worker was due to let me know my panel date. I'd been told probably mid to late May and chased this up a few times, but between Easter and then me spending last week with covid, it wasn't until lunchtime today (27 April) that they confirmed my Matching Panel date as 23rd June. A strange "mid to late May", but I'm happy to at least have my date. ** Update - not 24 hours later and I've had a correction through -the date is 23rd May not June!! *** So, what now? The next thing is actually tomorrow when I travel down to meet the foster carers and nursery workers etc to hear more about her / see her from a distance. Next is chat with her medical practitioner on 4th May My social worker and hers have to write a large report that explains all about why we are suited to each other, how transitions would work and what support we'd have moving forward. I'll be asked for some inputs to that (their words: "there's lo...

Transition planning

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thanks.... it's the trauma

"What a really well behaved little one ..." is a frequent comment about my little one. Sometimes this is meant in a nice way, sometimes this is means that the speaker is feeling overwhelmed/judged for the fact their little one(s) have more typical reactions to instructions at this age. Unfortunately, this is one where nothing you say can help them to feel better. The truth is 'thanks.... it's the trauma', but that's not really the sensible thing to share. What does it look like? - Doing what she's told - not showing when she is angry / upset openly at the time (then reacting later/looking for me to recognise it*) - sitting and waiting quietly when others might be jumping about - saying "I'm sorry" when something is not their fault - ... and more (that i'll need to add to later!) *What this means is that i find my own social battery running down much quicker than i was previously used to, because i use a lot of my energy looking for ...

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