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Sometimes it's difficult to explain the little things that catch you out when you're an adoptive parent. One happened the other day, which I thought was worth a share.

We're starting to get out and socialise more now.  The other day little one wanted to revisit a particular park.
One of my workmate's lives right by said  park, so pinged to say hello if about
 Introduced (Bob*) to little one and had good playtime
He left and she turns to me and says "that mummy's daddy!!"
Brain cogs whirring...... What?!? Oh right, foster dad's real name is also (Bob) which we've been trying to get her to call him by.
Cue interesting conversation with some clarifications for her!!

I originally told a friend about this that evening and had an accidental but appropriate typo - Typing "faux pa" instead of "Faux Pas"... You get to have it as the title on purpose.

(*Bob isn't the real name)

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