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thanks.... it's the trauma

"What a really well behaved little one ..." is a frequent comment about my little one. Sometimes this is meant in a nice way, sometimes this is means that the speaker is feeling overwhelmed/judged for the fact their little one(s) have more typical reactions to instructions at this age. Unfortunately, this is one where nothing you say can help them to feel better. The truth is 'thanks.... it's the trauma', but that's not really the sensible thing to share.

What does it look like? 
 - Doing what she's told
 - not showing when she is angry / upset openly at the time (then reacting later/looking for me to recognise it*)
 - sitting and waiting quietly when others might be jumping about
 - saying "I'm sorry" when something is not their fault
 - ... and more (that i'll need to add to later!)


*What this means is that i find my own social battery running down much quicker than i was previously used to, because i use a lot of my energy looking for the small telltale signs that she's not happy, because to others she'd appear fine 
As an aside, The nursery that i'm looking at has a therapy dog, which I believe would be trained to pick up on these behaviours and support her, which has helped their case.)


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