What's next? (officially)

So next week, my social worker will give a call to go through expected timings etc. In the meantime I thought it's probably useful to share what the websites say

https://www.first4adoption.org.uk/the-adoption-process/matching-finding-the-right-child-for-your-family/

It is unlikely that you will meet the child until after the match is formally approved. However it is now fairly normal that videos of the children in their foster homes will be shown to you during this exploratory phase. You may also meet the Medical Adviser of the child’s agency to help you understand the implications of any known medical information. Once you all agree that a suitable child has been identified your adoption agency, together with the child’s agency will write an Adoption Placement Report for the matching panel. This report will include an Adoption Support Plan which outlines the support that the child’s agency will provide depending on the known needs of the child. The match will then be presented to the adoption panel of the child’s agency.

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Book - adoptive children in school

Spotted this one on fb and thought it was worth capturing and sharing

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Sing in the rain

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