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Contact - settling in letter

I had made a lot of notes about things i wanted to consider for letterbox contact (see Contact: Letterbox and Voices of birth parents), but it was still hard to work out what to include and how to do it.

I was able to share how she was settling in (well, thankfully!), some activities she'd started to enjoy and i asked Little one (LO) for some favourites (colour, animal, tv show, activities, number....) I included some handprints so they had something that LO had touched directly and that gave them something specific from her.

I also mentioned talking about birth family with LO, so that they knew she still knew about them. This also gave a good way in to asking a couple of questions, including whether they were able to share any photos that i could show LO - of them together or LO as a baby.

I didn't get a specific reply back to the settling in letters (multiple family members) and am not sure they were given the chance to, however, they did send some additional photos via the social worker, so that was quite significant. As well as putting these in a physical album, i also put these in a (private) online album so that i could quickly bring them up if in conversation with LO and they requested it/ it felt appropriate. 

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